How Do You Find The Words?

By | October 27, 2016

Last week, we received some devastating news.  It’s hard to even type this.  Our dear friends lost their son, who was only 36 years old.  These are friends we’ve know for over 30 years, in fact one was a groomsman in our wedding.  They are the nicest, most wonderful people, and it’s just heart wrenching to think about what they are going through.  Honestly, I have a hard time thinking of anything worse than the death of a child.

So, how do you find the words?  How can you even express that kind of sorrow?

The only thing I can think of is to make a special card and tell them we care and love them.


I seriously struggled with this.  I have a hard time being creative when I’m sad, and I have to admit that there were two earlier versions of this card that ended up in the trash before I was satisfied.

I decided to create a mountain scene because we use to spend a lot of time together in the Sierra cross country skiing.  Using a card I found on Pinterest for inspiration, I created masks and used sponges to form the shapes in the background.  I learned to go light with the Daffodil Delight and to let some of the white cardstock show through.  Soft colors fading into each other worked well.


After I finished sponging, I added some white detail with a Chalk Marker over the water, and I used a Basic Black Stampin’ Write Marker to add some grass to the foreground.

I stamped my tree with Early Espresso ink and then embossed it in black to really make it stand out.  I didn’t realize until after I made this card that Stampin’ Up! no longer sells black embossing powder.  Whoops!!!  Well, if you want to recreate this card, you can pick some up at a craft store.


I wanted to draw attention to the serene landscape, so I minimized color on the rest of the card.  Instead, I added some simple embossing on the white background with the Woodgrain Textured Impression Embossing Folder.

The sentiment is from the Flourishing Phrases stamp set, and then I couldn’t resist adding one of those gorgeous filigree die cuts from the coordinating Flourish Thinlits Dies.


Supplies used on my card:

I thank God every day for my two children.  I feel blessed that they are happy and healthy, and cherish every moment with them.

Tami Hewlett



2 thoughts on “How Do You Find The Words?

  1. Aussie Carrie

    I am sorry to hear of your sad news. As a parent who has lost an adult son, the only things that brought comfort were the messages received from folk who knew us or who lives had been touched by our son. Your card is beautiful. Handmade cards always come from the heart and your friends will know how much love and thoughts went into making it especially for them.

    1. Tami Hewlett Post author

      Thank you so much and so sorry … I wish no parent had to deal with the loss of a child.


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